My Counseling Style
I approach counseling from a holistic perspective, attending to your heart, mind, body, spirit, and relationships.
First and foremost, I believe that the relationship between counselor and client is critically important. My hope is that you find a counselor with whom you can feel safe to share your experiences and know that you will be supported. That is why I offer a free initial consultation. During the consultation, we can talk about why you are seeking counseling, what we might do together to help you create the life you want, and then discuss whether I am the best counselor for you.
If you choose to establish an on-going counseling relationship with me, we will work toward helping you heal from the pain you experience in life and create the life you want by drawing from a variety of counseling approaches, including...
The length of time we will spend in counseling together is variable and will depend on your needs and wants. Primarily, I offer short-term counseling. I define short-term counseling as ranging from 6 sessions up to about a year, and will be happy to talk about the projected duration of counseling during our initial consultation .
Humanistic Counseling is a family of counseling approaches that
focus on what it means to be fully human. Of course, what is most important
in my work with you is what you find to be most important in living a fully
human and fully satisfying life. As we explore your own experiences and
hopes, we may address critical issues such as your values, what brings
meaning to your life, your relationships, your work, and issues related to
creativity, intuition, personal growth, social justice, diversity, and
interdependence. In the process, I assume that you are the expert of your
life and have the knowledge you need to make the important choices you
desire. Together we will work toward uncovering and building upon that
knowledge so that you may be able to create the life and relationships for
which you hope.
For more information about humanistic counseling, I invite you to review these websites:
What is Humanistic Psychology?
Association for Humanistic Counseling
Person-Centered (Rogerian) Therapy
Internal Family Systems
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a holistic approach to counseling that
integrates mind, body, and spirit, while helping you release the pain that
brings you to seek counseling. IFS recognizes that we naturally have many
different subpersonalities – or parts – within us. Sometimes,
parts hold deep wounding from our experiences (e.g., abuse, trauma,
relational pain, etc.) and are in need of healing. In counseling, we work
together to get to know the parts that exist within your mind and body, help
the ones that are in pain to heal, and then assist all your parts work
together in harmony with one another. The process can lead to greater
wholeness and help you access more of your natural energy and resources.
IFS was recently listed on the national counseling/psychotherapy registry (National Registry for Evidence-Based Programs and Practices) as effective or promising for the following concerns and struggles:
- Improving general functioning and well-being
- Phobia, Panic, and Generalized Anxiety
- Physical Health Conditions and Symptoms
- Personal Resilience and Self Concept
- Depression and Depressive Symptoms
Karin Lubin, Ed.D. and I recently published " Living From My Centered Self: An IFS Wisdom Journal " aimed at helping clients integrate IFS into their daily lives between counseling sessions. To read about and purchase the journal, simply click the title above.
For more information about IFS, I invite you to review the following
Center for Self Leadership
I am a Certified Therapist in EMDR. EMDR is a counseling intervention that has been found to be effective for persons who are struggling with the effects of trauma in their life. The intervention was developed by Francine Shapiro and assists clients to heal the painful sensations, thoughts and emotions that often result from experiences of trauma. EMDR has also been successful in helping people release the negative beliefs that keep them from thriving in life.
EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (e.g., moving the eyes back and forth, tapping the right and left knees, or listening to music that moves between the right and left ears, etc.) to unlock painful images, sounds, and emotions in the nervous system. Research has shown that EMDR is an effective treatment for reducing disturbing emotional experiences, releasing debilitating thought patterns, and developing a person's coping skills.
In addition to treating trauma with EMDR, I also offer EMDR for the following concerns:
- Anxiety and phobias
- Complicated grief
- Coping with illness, chronic pain, and medical trauma
- Performance anxiety or difficulties
- Obstacles that keep you from creating the life you want
For more information on EMDR, I invite you to link to and review the following web sites:EMDR Institute, Inc .
EMDR International Association (EMDRIA)
Video Introduction to EMDR as presented on 20/20
Trauma Expert, Bessel Van der Kolk, talks about the benefits of EMDR in trauma therapy
Guided Imagery is a technique that assists you in tapping into your imagination for a specific purpose, while in a relaxed state of being. During the process, you may be guided to imagine images, sounds, sensations, or emotions related to your goals for counseling. During a relaxed state of consciousness we can experience a greater sensitivity to the images and actions which we imagine in our mind's eye. A relaxed state of consciousness can also promote access to subconscious and/or intuitive knowledge that may otherwise be more difficult to retrieve in our normal conscious state of being.
For more information on guided imagery, I invite you to review the following websites:
Academy for Guided Imagery
Clinical hypnosis has been defined as a state of inner absorption, concentration, or focused attention which assists a client in altering some aspects of thought, emotion, behavior, or perception . As such, it shares several similarities with guided imagery, such as focusing attention on the inner experience, helping clients experience a more relaxed and focused state of consciousness, and addressing a specific goal. However, clinical hypnosis often includes more directive and specific guiding statements than is true of guided imagery. This is because the aim of many forms of clinical hypnosis is to help clients change their thoughts and behaviors related to an area of struggle (for example, anxiety, weight loss, chronic pain, etc.). Additionally, clinical hypnosis can help clients reach deeper states of relaxation...although, in my work with you, the depth of relaxation acheived will always be up to you.
For more information about hypnosis, I invite you to review the following websites:
American Society for Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH)
Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis (SCEH)
Both Guided Imagery and Clinical Hypnosis have been used for a variety of purposes, including:
- Reducing stress or anxiety
- Decreasing symptoms of depression
- Working through grief
- Reducing pain
- Decreasing adverse side effects of chemotherapy
- Increasing performance skills
- Accessing intuition and your own inner knowing
- Clarifying your goals and direction
Whether clinical hypnosis or guided imagery is best for you depends on your preferences, your susceptibility to focused and relaxed states of consciousness, and goals for counseling. Therefore, it will be important to discuss these options thoroughly and assess whether or not they are likely to be effective for you before using either.
Mindfulness has been defined as a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Engaging in mindful practices has been shown to be helpful for people who experience anxiety and intense emotions. Often Mindfulness activities lead to increased concentration abilities, letting go of intense self-judgments, greater acceptance of what is happening in our lives, and states of increased relaxation.
Together, we can identify the approaches that honor your specific needs and unique qualities.